High school survival guide #4- How to deal with Friendly Feuds.

High school survival guide #4- How to deal with Friendly Feuds.

Friendly Feuds.

Just to clear something up, NO, Friendly Feuds are very different from family feuds.

 So, basically family feuds start off very brutal but they learn to forgive eventually, because well youre related, god dangit its not like you can hate them forever! But as for friendly feuds things may go out of hand if not treated immediately.

 These things are very common not only in high school but basically life itself. Either it be, a slight disagreement on whether who gets the first watch on your project or maybe who gets to visit your pet hamster first, whatever it is, Its still a friendly feud.

Sometimes even the slightest disagreement can turn into something big. Why? Because it is scientifically proven that most people of today, have big ass prides.

So if you want to resolve your friendship with them, here some tips on how to deal with friendly feuds.

Tip #1- Admit your mistakes

Admit it, you have something to do with this. Its not entirely their fault. You have mistakes too, so in order for you to solve the problem you have to admit it.

Ask yourself this, What Did I do wrong?

You see young jedi, it takes a certain will power to swallow your pride, if you can do this, well then my friend, I salute you because even I cant do it, frequently.

 If you couldn’t find any mistakes you’ve made, You have a big ass pride. Just remind yourself that

  ONLY YOU COULD PUT YOURSELF INTO THIS TROUBLE, 

theres no one else to blame.

Stop saying “Its their Fault” and start saying “Its my fault” because its probably true. Admit to yourself that you’ve probably been a bitch so that’s why they treated you the way they treated you. It cant happen for no particular reason at all.

Your pride isn’t poisonous so it wont hurt if you swallow it. Sure it’ll have a big damage to you “EGO” but remember that happiness is more important than pride.

Soon if you don’t do this, youll lose whats important to you, your friends.

(take this for an example)

SO YOU BETTER SUCK IT UP, ADMIT YOUR MISTAKES AND SWALLOW YOUR DAMN PRIDE.

Tip#2- Talk to them.

To resolve this misfit, youre gonna have to talk this through. Listen to them and give your side of the story, and By all means, do not talk back when theyre talking because that will only make the situation worse. After all, communication is the only way you could resolve a problem.

I mean, Its not like you could read each others minds, Though that would be kind of cool. But we cant. So better start talking if you want this to end well.

Talking to each other also can be the best way to find out what you did wrong and hopefully, if youre in your right mind, improve your mistakes.  It could probably help if youre comfortable with this person, but if youre not then just suck it up and talk.

Grab and open a cup of courage and talk it out! If youre afraid they might not listen then apply my recent advice, Youll never know if you never try. If you never ask, the answer will always be no.

Tip #3- APOLOGIZE

This might be hard for some of us, but if the friendship you have, means anything to you, you would stop wallowing in your pride, suck it up and apologize.

I don’t give two fuss about who started it, and who’s fault is it, if you have the mentality to do so, then apologize. Suck the pride and DO IT.

Its not that hard to say 2 words! All you have to do is say “IM SORRY”. Its not rocket science and it doesn’t even take 5 seconds of your time!

But beware, this word is a powerful one. It could be hard saying it if you don’t mean it. If you mean it then might as well get creative and say it like, well, like you mean it!

Make up a speech, involve balloons, blow bubbles, be as creative as you can be. Im sure if you do this they’ll accept your apology. But the important thing here is it must come from the heart if it doesn’t then it doesn’t mean anything..

REMEMBER: APOLOGIZING DOESN’T ALWAYS MEAN YOUR WRONG, IT JUST MEANS THAT YOU VALUE YOUR FRIENDSHIP MORE THAN YOUR EGO.

Tip #4- give it time

You know what they say, it takes time to heal a wound. If youre not back to being as close as you were instantly, well, its normal.

 

Its not like they can forget what you did in just a snap of a finger! You have to understand that they have feelings too and they probably need time to sort it out. So just be patient and wait for the time that it gets sorted out.

If you did the right thing, then rest assured, that one day, you’ll be right where you left off. Don’t lose hope instantly, just give them the space and time to figure themselves out.

Put yourself in there shoes, and think about what would you feel, if you have to go through the same amount of pain they could be experiencing right now. So for now the best thing you can do, is wait.

Tip #5- Forgive

This is probably the most important thing to do in friendly feuds, just forgive. You might not know this, but maybe you’re the reason why it isn’t working.

Dig deep into your heart and forgive them, It takes time but youll soon learn, young jedi.

Youre probably wondering why I left it as the last tip, even if it’s the most important one, I have my reasons. Youll discover that in no time.

Just remember that friendly feuds can ruin friendships so if I were you, you better resolve this, and fast! 

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So that ends my little blog post, I apologize if the last tip was short, I have “bloggers block”! So yeah, I have been really uninspired today so if you find this post horrendous, then I don’t blame you, I literally took a very slow amount of time writing this.

But I hope it helped nonetheless, so for anyone out there who’s having a friendly feud, I hope that my tips helped.

I have school in about 4 days. YES, YOU HEARD ME RIGHT! 4 DAYS LEFT, until its bye bye freedom. As for this blog, when school starts ill be blogging less frequently than often times.

Why? Well I have school. And homework. And busy scheadules. So I’ll try to update every once in a week, preferably Fridays.

So until I write again, FAREWELL! 

theKxx